I have always been fascinated by the power of metaphors to convey complex ideas in a simple and relatable way. I will explore the relationship between the anode and the cathode and what it can teach us about our own relationships.
In my personal and humble opinion I have found that the “Polarity” of the sexes is off axis… weh at mean? In everything, in all things, there needs to be a balance, a “big word” for balance is “equilibrium”. My friend Jerome Butler, a mentor who taught me many life lessons throughout my adult life and even to the moment of Me writing this article, always spoke about the “anode” and the “cathode” whenever he would expand on the dynamics of human relationships.
The anode and the cathode are two electrodes in an electrical circuit. The anode is the electrode through which the conventional current flows into a polarized electrical device, while the cathode is the electrode through which the conventional current flows out of a polarized electrical device. In other words, the anode is where the negative ions gather, and the cathode is where the positive ions gather.
At first glance, this may seem like a dry and technical subject, but as I delve deeper, I believe you will see the richness and relevance of this metaphor to our own lives.
One of the first things to note is that the anode and the cathode are both necessary for the flow of electricity. Without one, the other cannot function. This is similar to the relationships in our lives. We need other people to complete us and to help us grow. We are all interconnected, and our lives are richer and more meaningful when we have strong and positive relationships with others.
Another important aspect of the anode and the cathode is that they are constantly in a state of flux. The ions are constantly moving and changing, and the flow of electricity is always in motion. This is similar to the relationships in our lives, which are constantly changing and evolving. We are always learning and growing, and our relationships with others are always in a state of flux.
However, it’s important to note that while the anode and the cathode are necessary for the flow of electricity, they can also create resistance. When the ions gather on the electrodes, it creates a barrier that can impede the flow of electricity. Similarly, in our relationships, we can create resistance when we hold onto negative emotions such as anger, resentment, and fear. These emotions can create a barrier between us and the other person, making it difficult for us to connect and communicate effectively.
To overcome this resistance, we need to learn how to let go of our negative emotions and to cultivate a positive and open attitude towards others. This means being willing to listen, to understand, and to empathize with the other person’s perspective. It also means being willing to take responsibility for our own actions and to apologize when we have wronged someone.
Another important lesson we can learn from the anode and the cathode is the importance of balance. In a healthy electrical circuit, the anode and the cathode need to be in balance. If one electrode has too many ions, it can create an imbalance in the circuit, leading to inefficiency or even failure. Similarly, in our relationships, balance is essential. We need to be able to give and take, to support and be supported, to listen and be heard. When we are in balance, our relationships are stronger and more fulfilling.
Finally, the anode and the cathode remind us of the importance of flow. In an electrical circuit, the flow of electricity is what powers the device. Similarly, in our relationships, the flow of positive energy is what makes them meaningful and fulfilling. When we are open and receptive to the flow of positive energy, we can create strong and healthy relationships that bring joy and meaning to our lives.
The relationship between the anode and the cathode is a powerful metaphor for the relationships in our lives. By understanding the dynamics of this relationship, we can learn how to cultivate positive and fulfilling relationships with others. We can learn how to let go of negative emotions, to cultivate a positive and open attitude, to maintain balance, and to embrace the flow of positive energy. These are all essential skills for building strong and healthy relationships, and they are skills that we can all learn and practice.
Now as i had stated before it is my personal and humble opinion that the “Polarity” of the sexes is off axis and has created an imbalance.
They call it an Eclipse. A dramatic term, I know. But after years of witnessing the fallout, the burned bridges, and the quiet, hollow ache of relationships gone wrong, I can’t think of a more fitting word. We’re talking about that moment when the potent, life-giving energy between men and women, that magnetic pull that should elevate and inspire, instead implodes, leaving behind a wasteland of resentment and regret.
I wasn’t always this aware. For years, I stumbled through relationships, career choices, and even daily interactions feeling…off. Like a radio perpetually tuned to the wrong frequency.
Then, I started noticing patterns. In my own life, and in the lives of those around me. The simmering tension in marriages that looked picture-perfect. The string of failed relationships, each ending with the same accusations and weary sighs. The subtle but pervasive dissatisfaction in the workplace, where men and women seemed locked in a silent battle for dominance, each side feeling misunderstood and undervalued.
The core issue, as I began to understand it, boiled down to a fundamental imbalance. We’ve forgotten the natural dance between masculine and feminine energy, the inherent polarity that drives attraction, creativity, and growth. We’ve allowed the relentless demands of the modern world, fueled by technology and a distorted notion of progress, to blur the lines, to confuse our roles, and ultimately, to short-circuit the very power that fuels connection.
Think of it like this: Masculine and feminine aren’t just about gender. They are energies, forces that exist within all of us, regardless of whether we identify as male or female. The masculine, traditionally, provides structure, direction, and protection. It’s the focused beam of light, the unwavering will, the force that pushes forward and achieves. The feminine, on the other hand, embodies intuition, creativity, and connection. It’s the receptive earth, the flowing water, the nurturing force that fosters growth and harmony.
In a healthy dynamic, these energies complement each other. The masculine provides the framework, and the feminine fills it with life and beauty. The masculine sets the course, and the feminine navigates the currents. But what happens when the masculine becomes rigid and controlling, suffocating the feminine? Or when the feminine becomes chaotic and untethered, overwhelming the masculine?
That’s when the Eclipse begins.
The modern world, with its emphasis on achievement, competition, and relentless productivity, has largely devalued and suppressed the feminine. We’re encouraged to be “strong,” “independent,” and “unemotional” – qualities traditionally associated with the masculine. Women are pressured to adopt masculine traits to succeed in male-dominated fields, while men are often shamed for expressing vulnerability or sensitivity.
This imbalance creates a void. A hunger for something more. We yearn for genuine connection, for a sense of belonging, for a feeling of being seen and understood, not just for what we achieve, but for who we are at our core. And when we can’t find it, we lash out. We project our unmet needs and frustrations onto our partners, our colleagues, and even ourselves.
The consequences are devastating. Relationships crumble under the weight of unspoken resentments. Careers stall as we struggle to navigate toxic power dynamics. And, perhaps most tragically, we lose touch with our own authentic selves, feeling adrift in a sea of expectations and pressures.
And if children are brought into this equation? The Eclipse deepens, casting a long shadow that can affect generations. Children raised in environments of conflict and imbalance often internalize these patterns, perpetuating the cycle of disconnection and dissatisfaction. They learn to distrust intimacy, to suppress their emotions, and to seek validation from external sources, rather than from within. The result is a world filled with adults who are desperately seeking love and acceptance, but who are simultaneously terrified of vulnerability and connection.
But there is hope. The Eclipse doesn’t have to be a permanent state. We can learn to rewire our patterns, to reclaim our lost polarity, and to create relationships and lives that are truly fulfilling. It starts with understanding the nature of these energies, recognizing the imbalances within ourselves and around us, and consciously choosing to cultivate a more harmonious dynamic. It’s about embracing both our strength and our vulnerability, our logic and our intuition, our masculine and our feminine. It’s about learning to dance again, to move in rhythm with each other, and to create a world where the light of connection shines brightly.
